Are You A Prisoner To Your Own Mental Minutia?…

Are You A Prisoner To Your Own Mental Minutia?…

Are You A Prisoner To Your Own Mental Minutia?… The thought process we create in our heads, brings out the reality in our lives. Are You A Prisoner To Your Own Mental Minutia?… Have you created a lifestyle that has you emotionally bound in relationships? It creeps up on us…..we cater to others, we people please and put everyone else first. And then…..we realize we are stuck….painted into a corner of our own demise. Sometimes it can feel hopeless and you feel like no matter what happens you can’t untangle the web you slowly wove, how do you suddenly start to draw the line in the sand? How do you out of thin air make demands from relationships that no longer serve anybody involved? How do you hit that stop button to pause and restart to a higher plateau? It has to start with rethinking how you think. Not believing everything you think, and getting to know and trust yourself. Often we develop feelings of guilt about putting ourselves first, but theres no shame in it, in fact its imperative to our mental health. Let go the notion that your happiness is second to others, and by putting others first, is what makes us a good parent, sister daughter friend etc. Setting boundaries is of mega importance to achieve healthy, happy relationships. Wherever you feel stuck in your life, the culprit will always be yourself. Your self limiting thoughts are creating your prison and your belief in those thoughts is the warden keeping you there. ¬† Gretta   “People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If...
The Perils And Predicaments Of People Pleasing

The Perils And Predicaments Of People Pleasing

The Perils And Predicaments Of People Pleasing   We are all different, we are all not perfect, but, we who suffer from the people pleasing game are really suffering. The Perils And Predicaments Of People Pleasing will make your life very non-fulfilled, lifeless, off balance and unproductive. Stop waiting for everyone in your life to be happy before you yourself can be happy. Don’t try to do all you can for your grown children, friends and parents then go to bed exhausted thinking one day I’ll do what makes me happy……… That day will never come, you are caught up in the life you created where your relationships have been out of exchange. And although you designed this, you can’t figure out how to stop it. The train just keeps going and going, until you decide that this behavior is serving nobody. The truth is you must let things get uncomfortable to make the change. You have to push through the awkwardness to a higher ground that will be the new standard for all of these relationships. In time, putting your needs first will become second nature. You will stop seeking approval and attention from everyone else and only seek it from yourself. We all want to be liked, we all want to not be criticized, but at what cost? When pleasing and accommodating the needs and wants of others all day long becomes your pattern, you have sacrificed your own happiness. Define your limits…….draw the lines in the sand……..finally create those boundaries that will change your reality. Stop seeking the approval of others and only worry about how...
Finally Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone…..

Finally Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone…..

Finally Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone….. “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” ~Neale Donald Walsch Being comfortable is a positive feeling, a place we strive for on a daily basis. Being comfortable is also negative, making us feel “stuck” in the comfort we created. Finally Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone….. and stepping up and out of your bubble of safety terrifies most of us. When we advance in any way, we tend to recognize the achievement and immediately start to worry about how to keep it. We hold on white knuckled to the success and don’t want to rock the boat to further advancement. Complacency becomes the comfort zone and we tend to look no further. Pushing through, so to speak, to higher levels in all areas of your life requires some work, time and good positive energy. Your life’s work is not about being comfortable…..and that doesn’t mean your constantly working, but that your using your talents and time in the best way. If your not comfortable trying new things, meeting new people, taking risks, dreaming big, imagining the greatest outcomes, expanding your mind, getting rid of self limiting thoughts, than I suggest you get uncomfortable. Successful people think nothing about being uncomfortable, feeling awkward is second nature to people who have the end result of what they want in constant focus. We are comfortable in our relationships even when they are in need of some changes. At our jobs when we can be working smarter and we are usually not very satisfied with the type of work we do. It starts with...
Healing From The Past…..A Journey To Freedom

Healing From The Past…..A Journey To Freedom

Healing From The Past…..A¬†Journey To Freedom Our story in which we create, has a lot of drama. We love the story of our life, we hold onto this story, we sadly always believe our story. But guess what……it is your interpretation of your story. It was interpreted from you as a child, by you when you were a rebellious teen. Its the story that through all your hardships of life, all of your let-downs….your trials and tribulations was somehow written and then carved in stone in your mind. Healing From The Past…..A Journey To Freedom is about raising inner awareness to shine a light on this interpretation that you’ve been living by. And because you yourself wrote it, it’s so easy to believe. Rewrite your story, literally put pen to paper and start to create a better version of the things that have left you feeling less than. Write a better version of the time you were frightened as a kid, write about how you were safe and your parents were there to protect you. Create a great positive reason about that time you felt rejected at the high school dance. Or that time you felt slighted from a group of friends. Have an interesting twist on why that person you fell for never called, and with a wild imagination discuss why you didn’t get that job……. As you write realize that the new interpretation your describing could have easily been your take on it while it was happening. It’s easy to go with the negative flow of things if your living in fear or insecure about yourself. As...
Showing Up For Yourself…..It’s Your Life…

Showing Up For Yourself…..It’s Your Life…

Showing Up For Yourself…..It’s Your Life… Show up for your life lessons……show up for the task the universe sends you… Part of the assignment is to recognize the gift of the lesson sent. Showing Up For Yourself…..It’s Your Life… is about being available for the opportunities that show up. If you are unaware of the present moment, then you will not be able to move forward with growth. Awareness of your thoughts, and emitting positive energies about challenges will thrust you into the life you deserve. In other words, be ready and willing to take on your life with love in your heart. No one else but you can show up to bring your life to the highest level of joy. No one but you can take care of yourself, love yourself and create the life you want. Trust that you can, believe in yourself to the point that you need no validation from outside energy. Once you align with this level of self love, and truly show up for yourself, you will realize how self sufficient you are. This is the state of being that we strive for, the real you in which your higher self aligns with. When you begin to rely on yourself you are happier, more available to others who need you as you’re more in control and centered in your life. Paradoxically, if you are searching on the outside to fulfill your life, the people who rely on you, such as young children and aging parents, will find it hard to count on you. So showing up for you actually helps others as well....
Clearing The Clutter From Your House And Your Mind

Clearing The Clutter From Your House And Your Mind

Clearing The Clutter From Your House And Your Mind In a world full of chaos and disorder…..how do you feel about your space? Do you walk into your living room and feel peaceful or distracted? Clearing The Clutter From Your House And Your Mind will change your energy field and create a healthy flow of clear minded peace and bliss. To reap the full benefits of a minimal lifestyle, first you have to only have around you items that are functional or bring a positive energy to the room. Start with your front door, is there clutter at the entrance to your home? Clear it away and only leave whats necessary. A welcome matt, a plant (thats not dead or dying, but is pretty.) And maybe nothing else. Ask yourself as you look around at the items at your front door if the item is necessary or nice to look at. Take a look at your living room, is it the room it’s supposed to be? Does it promote people gathering and sharing conversation? Are the items in the room serving a purpose? Hold each item and ask yourself how it makes you feel, if it doesn’t bring you a good feeling….. toss it. Do this in every room, The kitchen will really be a challenge, but rest assured you do not need the eight colanders you have scattered about! This process will require time but will be so rewarding. In your bedroom, have nothing under your bed. Clutter under the bed will result in restless sleeps. Take everything out of your closet and put it in a pile...